...ok, so often, I stop the flow. I start visualizing how things would work if only the other person would understand me, or comply with my wishes.
When I put up those road blocks, the movement ends. We are at a standstill without any possibilty of resolution.
How to continue?
Take a break.
Stop trying to make my marvelous point. Maybe it isn't that marvelous, because the other person doesn't agree.
Then I ask myself, "What if?" I mean...what if the other person were right? How could that actually work out?
After that, the cure for my mental immovability is to do a chore. I zone out while doing dishes, or laundry and the thoughts flow again.
And truly? The way I want it for myself isn't often best for everyone. There is a common ground always and if all of us strive to reach it, we might just find out that we were joined by someone else wanting the common ground as well.
Make some du'a, gang.