Friday, March 20, 2009

Where in the World?

I've been answering ads for jobs overseas.

I answered an ad from Turkey. It might not be my qualifications or my cover letter which cause me to lose out. It might well be my covered head. Did you know that Turkey has had many clashes between religion and culture? Read about it here.

This aversion to Islam is kind of crazy considering how many mashahallah gorgeous Turkish masjids there are. Before even coming to Islam, I was mesmerized by the Blue Mosque.

This week, I did get an interview with a placement agency for a job in Oman. I do think that it would be the height of humor for Allah to get me Oman. Why?

I've been praying, "Oh, Allah, please send me a man."

Instead? Allah SWT might very well send me Oman.

Oman looks beautiful. It's called, "The Switzerland of the Middle-east".
I looked up the women's rights in Oman. I think any woman considering employment overseas needs to find that out from objective internet sources and friends.
This job search has turned into an interesting geography lesson as well. I always enjoyed learning about other people and places. This time (as they say in the movie trailers) it's personal!
May Allah help all of us to find the place where we best grow.


Jamaican Hijabi said...

One thing tho, Omanis are not really allowed to marry foreigners, they would lose their citizenship, its a crappy law. If you are going there don't do it looking for an Omani husband...unless he is willing to give up his citizenship.

Lisa said...

Yosra I wouldn't recommend Turkey. Been there, done that. There are wonderful, well-educated men there, but the problem is Sufi Islam and a husband whose not your perfect match in faith. You would likely be more religious than him.

You would find it beautiful, except you couldn't enter the university in Istanbul with hijab on.

The main issue would be men more inclined towards cultural Islam. Since you've already had a bad experience....

I pray that Allah makes your path easy. I've been thinking and praying for you a lot these days dear one.

I know you will find your happiness. Oman sounds very nice. By the way, I was wondering about your very first husband. If it's too painful to discuss, just ignore this. Just wondered if he was Muslim. Love you very much dearest Yosra.

P.S.-You were right about me hurting Our Rewards. I got a taste of my own medicine recently. Just wanted to let you know, I love and absolutely cherish your opinion dear one. Rarely, has someone been more spot on about me.

veiled-threat said...

Private universities, such as Fatih in Istanbul, allow hijabis. The place was crawling with hijabis. Private university tuition for an American at Fatih is $5K per year. For a Turkish national it's $10K. Sounds like a good deal to me.

The only problem with hijab in Turkey is the government position. The people themselves tend to live and let live. It wasn't unusual all over Turkey to see hijabis and non-hijabis and niqabis walking hand in hand.

I've found the Turkish people to be much more moderate in their approach to Islam. More so than people from the Gulf.

Yosra said...

Asalamu Alaykom Jamaican Hijabi,

That is some serious food for thought! OK, so no Omani men, eh? Or if I do fall in love with an Omani man, I better make him fall in love with me some serious deep. Give up citizenship? I don't think I would have done that for anyone---well...maybe...but I'm glad I didn't have to!

Asalamu Alaykom Lisa,

I know what you mean about Turkey and the Turkish men. The good thing is that I'm not really into the overseas gig to find a hub. Truly, I need to earn some moola for living. It's me and Mr. Boo.

As for X1, I don't discuss him hardly at all. Why? I think his fiance reads my blog. I think it's fair to say that he's an CEO Christian which means, "Christmas and Easter Only". A recovering Catholic, he didn't really have enough faith to participate in a marriage with me. Not too painful to discuss. At this point it's like a million years (or men) ago.

I read your postscript. I think that all of us really do love each other. We are all fragments of each other. When we hurt someone on the blogosphere it's usually because we are hurting inside ourselves. Maybe now that you are exploring your own hurts and frustrations on your own blog, you can be kinder. I feel you are kinder, definately. I bet that feels good now and maybe it feels a little bad that you ever weren't so understanding. For those past indulgences, we can only ask Allah to forgive us, ask the person, and then ask it of ourselves.

Sending you love!

Sally said...

Asalaamu Alaikoum sister!
Yikes, I don't know if I'd want to live in Turkey...
LOL - "A Man, Oman" good one :)
Sorry my comments are stupid...
but "A Man / Oman" made me laugh out loud seriously.
Love you!

L_Oman said...


Come to Oman - give it a year and if you don't like it, move on. There's UAE, Kuwait, etc. etc.

Find yourself a good contract and you are good to go! I'm assuming you are looking at teaching (am I right?).

Take an adventure for you and your little boo. 'Fah-get' about men - it'll be a wonderful experience to see the world with your little guy!!!!! :) And yes, it is true that Omani men aren't allowed to marry foreigners without permission.

Yosra said...

Asalamu Alaykom Veiled,

Nice to see you here! Thanks for another thought about Turkey. I will go where God sends me...or stay if God so wills.

Asalamu Alaykom Sally,

We must have the same humor! Ya, I cracked up over that joke as well. Really, God DOES have a sense of humor. Just look at the platypus!

Asalamu Alaykom L_Oman,

Ya, girl! I totally thought of you! I went over to your blog and searched through. You haven't been writing as late, so I wondered what was going on. You done being p*ssed? Can't stay that way forever!

Yepper, I agree that it could be one grand adventure. LOL, like the rest of our life hasn't been! But maybe a nice adventure with a happy start, middle and end :)

Would you be willing to share contact info if I need? Just put it here with DO NOT POST at the start and I'll grab it. Merci!

Lisa said...


Alhamudulillah, there has been so much renewal in being a better and nicer girl. I have to thank you Yosra because you were a voice in that vast wilderness. You stood up alone for Our Rewards, and you were right. It was hurtful. I pray this morning for Allah's forgiveness.

I understand you wanting to move for Mr. Boo. Like you, I am unemployed (on unemployment)and finding it VERY difficult to find something decent. I think going to Turkey or Oman would truly make your search more lucrative.

Thank you for tellin me about your ex. Insh'Allah you are very brave Yosra and it makes me happy to see how well you've moved on. Love you dearly.

Safiyyah said...

Salaams Dear:

Do you know Sister Jayla at Living Life and Loving It?

She has taught all over the ME. She can give you valuable insight.

Did had numerous problems getting jobs being covered properly.

You may want to contact her.

Also, contact PM - she teaches at the university level in Qatar. She can probably give you some feedback, too.